Why it’s more complicated than college—and how to survive it with your sanity intact.

If the phrase “applying to private school in New York City” sends a little shiver down your spine, you are not overreacting. It’s a world with its own rules, its own language, and—let’s be honest—its own quirks. And here’s the part no one tells you: in many ways, it’s harder than applying to college.

I say that with love, not fear. I grew up here. I’ve lived this process as a student, and then again (and again… and again) as a mom raising three kids in the NYC private school system. I’ve done the tours in the dead of winter, filled out the endless forms, sweated through the parent interviews, and juggled the essays (yes, even for preschool). I’ve also had the sweet relief of finding the school that felt like home—and the joy of watching my kids thrive there.

So if you’re feeling overwhelmed—whether you’re relocating from across the country or just moving to a new neighborhood—take a deep breath. You will get through this. And you don’t have to do it alone. Over the years, I’ve connected with trusted, vetted school advisors who know this process inside and out. They’ve guided hundreds of families successfully through it, and I’m always happy to make introductions.

Three Truths to Keep in Mind

1. This is about fit, not prestige.
The “best” school on a list may not be the best school for your child. The right match is where your child will feel safe, seen, and supported—academically, socially, and emotionally.

2. The process can feel like a second job.
Between applications, open houses, interviews, and essays, it’s a lot to manage. But with the right strategy (and the right help), it can actually be manageable… maybe even fun.

3. It will work out.
Even if you don’t get your first choice, you will find a great school where your child can learn, grow, and make friends for life.

Yes, applying to private school in NYC can be daunting. But it’s also a chance to explore new corners of the city, meet interesting families, and discover communities you might never have found otherwise. And when you have someone experienced in your corner—someone who’s been through it and knows who to call—it’s far less intimidating.

If you’re about to start this journey, reach out. I can connect you with the right advisors, answer your questions, and help you keep perspective when things start to feel intense.

Because at the end of the day, this isn’t just about getting into a school—it’s about finding the right school for your child and your family. And trust me, that school exists.

Take a deep breath. You’ve got this.